Here at The Modern Day Girlfriend we’re all about helping people live an authentic life while learning how to live and love in the digital age one swipe at a time. I share both pros and cons of the internet and what it has done for our generation and the ones to follow.
Today as a society we spend more time trying to deceiver what an emoji might mean than an actual face to face conversations so whether you are currently in a relationship or single the internet can play huge role in your happily ever after. Below are 10 ways I feel the internet has ruined relationships.
10 Ways The Internet Has Ruined Relationships For Our Generation
1.It’s Official: The added pressure to make something “official.” Whether it’s Facebook official or worthy of an Instagram post showing the world you are taken via the internet has become a couple’s new “calling card.”
2. Alone Time: Having alone time for yourself which is healthy for any relationship isn’t really alone time anymore. You’re now spending the time you would be writing in your journal, reading a book or meditating into scrolling through other people’s feed aka their lives.
3.Comparison: Speaking of caring about someone else’s life, comparing your life and your relationship to others that you see over the internet can create a false sense of what love or being in a relationship really means to you and your partner.
4. Jealousy: It’s not about who liked the photo but who commented, right? “Why does his ex comment on all his photo,” “Who is that guy leaving my girl an emoji with a kissing wink face?” The internet has taken jealous to a whole new level which can lead to cyber stalking which is a whole other blog post!
5. Subliminal Messages: The tone gets lost via the internet or the so called “written word” which I have discussed her at The Modern Day Girlfriend many times. This can lead to literally reading a whole situation wrong.
6. Stalking aka “Research”: Takes the whole getting to know someone off the table, you can just Google them fast than you can ask them the question and have them answer it.
7. You’re Not In The Moment: You document your whole date, vacation or dinner on snapchat or Instagram instead of being preset in that moment.
8. A Heart Never Breaks Even: The internet has made breaking up that much harder to do. Unless you block them, unfollow their socials, etc ( which I think is important for the healing process after a break up in today’s cyber generation) seeing what they’re doing makes it that much harder to let go.
9. Busy Body: The Internet allows people to know more of your business than they need to know. People also like to make assumption by what a photo might look like or if you haven’t posted a photo with your partner in awhile instantly people think “there most be trouble in paradise!”
10. Not Everyone Is Who They Post To Be: More opportunities to lie and have sneaky behavior.
Do you agree? What are someways you think the internet has ruined relationships if at all?
This is why I’m thankful my fiance isn’t on Facebook! lol No pressure to post pictures, comment, like, share, etc.! I also think people feel like they are “connecting” and nurturing their relationships through social media, but they really aren’t. They might know what’s going on with the person, but that is it. Nothing deeper on a meaningful level.